‘Top Tips for Wedding Speech Nerves’ by the Wedding Speech Guru

The thoughts of having to write and deliver a speech on the wedding day can certainly leave one feeling a touch apprehensive… if not absolutely terrified! Robin Bayley, the man behind Wedding Speech Guru, shares his top tips with Oh So Perfect on how to conqueror those wedding speech nerves.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard's wedding.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard’s wedding.

 

 

  1. Know what nerves are

The first thing to realise is that nerves are inevitable and, this is the important point, they are not a bad thing. Ask any performer – actor, comedian, singer, politician or sports star – and they will tell you that they are always nervous before a big occasion, and that they use nerves to raise their game.

 

  1. Know your speech

While nerves are inevitable, you do need to be able to control them. What do you need to control nerves? The answer is very simple: confidence. And how do you become more confident? The answer is again very simple: know your speech. The definition of confidence is to have faith in something; if you know your material and how you want to deliver it, you’ll have confidence in yourself.

 

For any wedding speech, or any speech, there are three P’s to remember: Plan, Prepare and Practise. Even if you are a bride or groom wanting to just say a few words, if you have planned, prepared and practised those words in advance, your ability to convey what you want to say will increase exponentially.

 

  1. Know your audience

If it’s your wedding you will know who the wedding guests are. If not, ask. Try and include stories from both sides of the aisle so you connect with everyone in the room. The more you connect, the better they will react to you, and the more relaxed you will feel. Another way to connect with the audience is to talk with as many people as possible in the reception beforehand. It’s good to look up at friendly faces when you stand to make your speech, and if they’ve met you they’ll get behind you. You may also get some gems of last-minute material.

 

  1. Know the room

Make sure you see the room where the speeches will take place. See how your voice sounds in the room. If you’re using a microphone, test it. Double and triple check that any other technology you need is working. Appoint someone you trust to make sure it comes on at the right moment. Practise with them.

 

  1. Know your limits

It is tempting to try and banish nerves with alcohol but I would strongly advise against it. Having any more than a couple of drinks will seriously impair your ability to deliver the speech. As the comedian Bob Monkhouse used to say: “Never accept a drink before your speech. And never refuse one after it!”

 

 

This article was written for Oh So Perfect by Robin Bayley of Wedding Speech Guru. Wedding Speech Guru is a personalised coaching service for anyone making a wedding speech. If you need help with the writing, editing or delivery of your speech, contact Robin on +44 7985 919856, robin@weddingspeechguru.co.uk, via weddingspeechguru.co.uk or on Twitter @weddspeechguru 

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Need help planning your wedding day? Visit www.ohsoperfect.co.uk for our full list of wedding planning and coordination packages and services.

 

 

 

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