Wedding Speech Guru :: Best Man Boot Camp

A nationwide survey* commissioned by Wedding Speech Guru, reveals that Britain could be heading towards a shortage of best men. Almost half of the UK male population – 43% – would consider turning down the opportunity to be best man because they are so nervous about the prospect of making a speech.

And their nerves would seem to be well-founded. Almost three quarters (74%) of the 2,000 people questioned said that speeches can make or break the wedding. And 79% say that they feel sorry for the best man because of the pressure the speech brings…
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Nearly six out of ten (56%) said that they have heard embarrassing and inappropriate wedding speeches, over a third (35%) have been to weddings ruined by drunken speeches and a third of 18-34 year olds are ashamed of their wedding speech.
With so many best men getting it wrong, Wedding Speech Guru is organising Best Men Boot Camp – a workshop to help men talk about a bridegroom with truth and humour, rather than embarrass him with cheap jokes.
“What many best men don’t realise is that rather than embarrassing the groom, the main purpose of their speech is to commend their friend to the guests,” said Robin Bayley, author and founder of Wedding Speech Guru. Once wedding guests see that a speech is coming from a place of love and respect, they are much more likely to respond with laughter.
At the boot camp, which is being held in central London on July 16th, the best men will learn how to gather their material, hone it into stories that illustrate the groom’s character, and practise delivery in front of the other best men.
But if best men aren’t willing to step up to the plate, it seems that women are. One in five – 20% – of UK weddings have best women rather than best men. Women are judged to make better, less cringe-worthy speeches, less likely to get drunk and also to steer clear of rude jokes about the bride.
62% of Londoners think that it should be normal for women to make wedding speeches, and 57% said that women are more natural because men try too hard to be funny. Nationally 53% of 24-34 year olds believe that women’s wedding speeches are better than men’s.
*Nationwide survey by Populus, March 2016. 2,000 respondents, aged 18+

Wedding Speech Guru was founded by author, life coach and serial best man, Robin Bayley.

Wedding Speech Guru’s mission is to ensure that speeches honour the bride and groom and come from a place of affection and emotional truth. Alongside group workshops, such as Best Man Boot Camp Wedding Speech Guru provides tailor made, one-to-one speech coaching for anyone making a wedding speech. Robin helped to set up Wedding TV in 2008 and is a registered minister, licensed to conduct weddings in California. He has just been asked to be best man for the sixth time.

For more information contact Robin
07985919856
robin@weddingspeechguru.co.uk
or visit
www.weddingspeechguru.co.uk

 

Post written by Robin Bayley and publised on www.ohsoperfect.co.uk. 

 

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Roberson Wine – Food and Wine pairings

The very kind people at Roberson Wines have offered our readers this infographic to share on our blog this afternoon regarding suggested food and wine parings for consideration when choosing your menu and drink choices at your wedding breakfast. I hope you find them useful!

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TRULYExperiences: Ametsa with Arzak Instruction

Oh So Exclusive – Diary of a Wedding Planner

A few weeks ago, I was asked by the team at TRULY: Luxury Gift Experiences to try out one of their gift experiences, as a professional wedding planner considering its value as a wedding gift. I promptly replied that I would be crazy not to!

Let me start by introducing Truly to you, in their own words:

TRULY are the leading purveyors of luxury gift experiences in the UK and we believe that our gifts make the best wedding presents.

 They are unique gifts that make the gift giver stand out from the crowd. For the newlyweds, they create memories that last a lifetime – an incomparable wedding present.

The team at TRULY kindly offered me a selection of potential experiences to choose from and I opted for Spanish Michelin Star Lunch for Two at Ametsa with Arzak Instruction. 

I made my selection and a day later my gift experience voucher arrived at my door. Inside the box, wrapped in black, delicately scented tissue paper, was a piece of white card with the title of my experience and a unique customer code embossed upon it in silver. Very classy. All I had to do was contact the concierge team via email (a very friendly and helpful bunch of people) and book my date to attend. A few days before the experience itself, I was politely contacted by the concierge team again to see that all was still OK with my plan to visit, and was politely informed I would simply need to give my name on arrival. Nice and easy!

My lunch date and I arrived on foot and were immediately greeted with a smile and a welcome. The Halkin hotel, where the Ametsa restaurant is based, is a luxury hotel, and we were certainly given a luxury welcome as two waiters led us to our table, pulling out our chairs to be seated. A fragrant, spicy aroma filled the room as we entered – the result of a ceiling decorated with glass jars, each filled with Spanish spices – delicious!

We ordered our drinks (a bottle of the house white wine at £28) and took a look at the menu. The menu we were given was the set lunch menu, as this is what was purchased within the experience. I was pleased to note that the experience cost £55, so with the lunch menu priced at £27.50 a head, no sneaky added extras had been calculated by the cost of booking this treat through TRULY – it was an exact price match. Included in the menu (and therefore the experience) was entrée nibbles, bread and oil, a three dish tapas starter to share plus a shot of soup, a main course each, coffee or tea, and petit fours to finish. Any drinks and desserts were supplementary, but I’ll come back to this later.

The menu being a set menu is very restricted in its choices, limited to a set selection of the tapas dishes to share, followed by a choice each between two main meals only. This is great for me as I’m always completely hopeless at choosing from a vast menu (honestly, it’s embarrassing how long I take to choose!) but if you’re a fussy eater (or indeed your gift recipient is a fussy eater) you may encounter problems. I like to think though that the Spanish Michelin Star Lunch with Arzak Instruction is a pretty foodie-friendly choice of gift though, so hopefully this would be intended to be given to someone already known to be less fussy in their dining!

I also noted that there was not a choice on the menu for vegetarians. When I first made my booking through the concierge team I was politely asked whether either of us had any food allergies or dietary requirements. At this point, I let the team know that I am personally a pescetarian  and this was noted in our booking.

Luckily, of the two main dishes available, one was a fish dish and there was squid in the tapas (although I had already decided I would be sampling ALL of the tapas regardless!). Our waiter – the restuarant manager – on seating us had again asked whether we had any specific allergies or requirements which should be noted by the kitchen. He informed us that with Arzak cooking there could be up to 30-odd ingredients in one bite of food. We informed him that this was fine, but I did wonder had I been fussier in my diet choices what options he may have come up with, because if the menu was anything to go by then veggies I’m afraid you’d be a little more stuck for choice!

I’d also have been interested to know more about those 30-odd ingredients in a single bite, as the menu gave very little away in its description of the dishes on offer.

I know from my earlier research online that: the menu showcases the best of new Basque cuisine, pairing the earthy flavours and techniques of Spain’s Basque region with modern, surprising twists featuring locally-sourced and organic produce from land and sea – and from what I had researched ‘Arzak instruction’ was in essence Spain’s answer to Heston Blumenthal’s ways of experimental cooking. But sadly at the meal itself we were told very little about what we were actually eating, although this did lead us both into a lot of amused nibbling, silly guessing, and pulling faces of great intrigue as we pondered over what might have been in there.

My main meal had come with a ‘celery illusion’ which I’m still guessing about (I think it may have been some sort of apple purée shaped like celery – delicious nonetheless), and on serving us our tapas the waiter informed us that the lamb meatballs had ‘something of a surprise’ in the middle. Intrigue got the better of us and we asked about that one – the surprise was in fact grape.

But despite not knowing everything about each dish, the food was quite simply:incredible. We thoroughly enjoyed each and every bite. The cured ham in the tapas, we were told, had been exported especially to the restaurant from a region in Spain and was not available to buy in the UK, and the squid dish had taken 24 hours to prepare beforehand.

Let’s just take a moment here to discuss that squid by the way. Oh. My.

I realise squid is not everyone’s cup of tea, but for those a little more open minded in their palette, the dish was perfect; the squid light and not chewy; suitably fishy in flavour but not over-powering. It was served in the most obscene looking vibrant green and jet black ink sauce, which actually we both thought looked totally brilliant! It really was quite a treat and I’ve been yearning for more ever since!

Since there were only two main courses to choose from, we selected one of each, and found that the presentation on arrival was everything you would stereotypically expect from a fancy restaurant. That is, it was artistic but actually quite small.

Well, this was where we were fooled, as although the portion looked small, once you got into it, it was really quite filling, and when you consider that we had already devoured bread and oil, three types of tapas and a cold tomato and strawberry soup in a shot glass (and actually this was only meant to be lunch after all) we were pleasantly impressed with the quantity. The quality of the food, of course, was immeasurable; and we delighted in taking as many photos as possible of each and every course that arrived.

As we tucked into our mains, my lunch date and I returned to the task at hand, and quizzed each other on our thoughts about the experience so far.

Our conclusions at this point were as follows:

Would the TRULY experience make a good wedding present for a newlywed couple? Yes. It was a lovely way to spend a day together, and at £55 for two people it was priced just about right to give as a wedding gift too.

Would the TRULY experience be suitable as a good engagement present? No. We personally wouldn’t either of us buy someone an engagement present in all honesty, it’d be far better suited to gift at the wedding.

If we were a newlywed couple, would we enjoy receiving this gift? Yes. It’d be something lovely to look forward to perhaps after the honeymoon, especially once all the wedding excitement had died down. (So many of my brides don’t know what to do with themselves after the wedding excitement has died down!)

My date and I decided that, in order to round of the experience completely, we would treat ourself to a dessert, which at £6.50 each wasn’t really too bad considering the luxury of the restaurant and its Michelin Star status.

We both agreed that the two choices given on the dessert menu weren’t really desserts we’d usually go for but, since we were already here sampling some fine dishes, we would complete the full indulgence. Thank goodness that we did, we were both in awe of what we ate and swapped plates midway to try each other’s puddings too. Delicious!

If you don’t opt for dessert though, it’s not the end of the world as you’re also treated to tea or coffee and a delectable selection of petit fours at the end of the meal within the set menu.

These included a mandarin marshmallow (the lightest, freshest, most delicious little marshmallow I have ever tasted); a divine bite of rich chocolate truffle; and the most refreshing little parsley macaroon to die for.

In fact our waiter accidentally dropped one macaroon on serving, and promptly brought out a whole mini tray of extra little macaroons to compensate, with garnish and edible flowers and everything… I may have squealed with excitement! It is a fact that every bride loves a macaron – apparently it is a taste fascination that comes automatically with the arrival of an engagement ring!

The price of this particular experience was just right at £55, perfectly reasonable to give as a gift and far more personal then handing over cash to a couple or picking something off their gift list.

Of course it must be considered that the couple will have to buy their own drinks, and dessert comes at a supplement price too,  plus there’s a service charge of 12.5% added to the bill at the end; but for the overall experience I think it’s quite fair to expect the couple to add this on their own as they’re still getting an incredible deal overall, all considered.

The total cost of our meal was as follows…

TRULY gift experience for two people which included:
– entrées
– bread and oil
– soup shot each and three kinds of tapas to share
– main course each
– tea and coffee
– petit fours
£55

Additional extras:
Bottle of house white wine
£28
Two desserts
£13
12.5% Service charge
£11.50

I guess normally I’d argue that £107.50 is an awful lot to spend on a lunch for two on a Friday; but delicious food, incredible quality, specialist restaurant, Michelin Stars, luxury hotel, attentive service and the fact that half-of-this-would-be-the-couple’s-gift-and-therefore-not-out-of-their-own-pocket-anyway considered, it’s really quite reasonable.  The newlyweds have only really spent an additional £52.50 of their own pennies to enjoy it at full expense as we did, and of course is only optional.

My thanks to TRULY and the team at Ametsa for a truly wonderful experience, we both thoroughly enjoyed our lunch date and would highly recommend this gift as a wedding present for a potential bride and groom.

This experience was kindly offered to us by TRULY but all opinions in this post are our own. To find out more about TRULY luxury gift experiences and find out what other gifts are available to purchase, visit the website: trulyexperiences.com

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‘Top Tips for Wedding Speech Nerves’ by the Wedding Speech Guru

The thoughts of having to write and deliver a speech on the wedding day can certainly leave one feeling a touch apprehensive… if not absolutely terrified! Robin Bayley, the man behind Wedding Speech Guru, shares his top tips with Oh So Perfect on how to conqueror those wedding speech nerves.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard's wedding.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard’s wedding.

 

 

  1. Know what nerves are

The first thing to realise is that nerves are inevitable and, this is the important point, they are not a bad thing. Ask any performer – actor, comedian, singer, politician or sports star – and they will tell you that they are always nervous before a big occasion, and that they use nerves to raise their game.

 

  1. Know your speech

While nerves are inevitable, you do need to be able to control them. What do you need to control nerves? The answer is very simple: confidence. And how do you become more confident? The answer is again very simple: know your speech. The definition of confidence is to have faith in something; if you know your material and how you want to deliver it, you’ll have confidence in yourself.

 

For any wedding speech, or any speech, there are three P’s to remember: Plan, Prepare and Practise. Even if you are a bride or groom wanting to just say a few words, if you have planned, prepared and practised those words in advance, your ability to convey what you want to say will increase exponentially.

 

  1. Know your audience

If it’s your wedding you will know who the wedding guests are. If not, ask. Try and include stories from both sides of the aisle so you connect with everyone in the room. The more you connect, the better they will react to you, and the more relaxed you will feel. Another way to connect with the audience is to talk with as many people as possible in the reception beforehand. It’s good to look up at friendly faces when you stand to make your speech, and if they’ve met you they’ll get behind you. You may also get some gems of last-minute material.

 

  1. Know the room

Make sure you see the room where the speeches will take place. See how your voice sounds in the room. If you’re using a microphone, test it. Double and triple check that any other technology you need is working. Appoint someone you trust to make sure it comes on at the right moment. Practise with them.

 

  1. Know your limits

It is tempting to try and banish nerves with alcohol but I would strongly advise against it. Having any more than a couple of drinks will seriously impair your ability to deliver the speech. As the comedian Bob Monkhouse used to say: “Never accept a drink before your speech. And never refuse one after it!”

 

 

This article was written for Oh So Perfect by Robin Bayley of Wedding Speech Guru. Wedding Speech Guru is a personalised coaching service for anyone making a wedding speech. If you need help with the writing, editing or delivery of your speech, contact Robin on +44 7985 919856, robin@weddingspeechguru.co.uk, via weddingspeechguru.co.uk or on Twitter @weddspeechguru 

If you’d like to feature an article on the Oh So Perfect blog contact us on enquiries@ohsoperfect.co.uk

 

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Sainsbury’s Bank: Guide to Proposals

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Kayleigh and Mark’s Wedding Film Highlights by White Rose Wedding Films

Thank you to White Rose Wedding Films who recently sent us this clip of the video highlights from our ‘Love Bird’ couple Kayleigh and Mark’s wedding last September in Mid Wales. What a cute pairing, don’t you think?

To view our photos from Kayleigh and Mark’s wedding, simply click here – or pop over and read the testimonial! 

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2014 Wedding Trends: Fashionable Themes

We’re delighted this week to be bringing you this inspiring little blog post featuring 2014’s hottest wedding themes currently trending this year, as written by Lianne Crosby from the Hitched.co.uk wedding blog team…. enjoy! 

This year has seen a very big change in wedding trends, couples are pushing the barriers of a traditional wedding and now you can have your wedding exactly how you want it. Fashion is a huge factor when it comes to wedding trends, because whatever is fashionable at the time of planning may not be so fashionable when the big day actually hits. Doing your research and keeping an eye on what’s hot can ensure that your wedding will not only be ball but will also fit in with what’s current at the time. So what’s hot right now?

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1920’s Style – The Great Gatsby

This is become a great trend for budding brides all around the world. With the release of The Great Gatsby soaring sky high at box office, the 1920’s lifestyle has become far more attractive to us. There is a touch of class that comes with this style of wedding, having everyone dressed to the nines and creating a dreamlike reception that everyone will enjoy. Going back in time is never a bad thing, this is the era that saw the first ever Academy Awards and the invention of bubble gum.

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Geometric – Throwing Some Shapes

Geometry was never a strong point for many of us in school, but now we’re all a little older the idea of a geometric wedding has become somewhat intriguing. We’re used to weddings being quite soft and gentle but you can still create this illusion with geometric shapes. Geometric shapes are made with lines and are blocky, this means no curves and nothing round. So you could have a very square wedding cake, but it doesn’t look odd at all, it’s actually very stylish these days.

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Woodland – The Great Outdoors

Even though Britain has been dubbed one of the wettest countries in the world, we do occasionally get the odd bit of sunshine. With the sunshine comes beautiful and stunning outdoor weddings in the sun. Woodland weddings work perfectly in the summer as you get the warmth of the sun but then the shade of the trees to stop you from getting burnt or heat exhaustion. It also gives you way more space to play with and also makes for some amazing photographs.

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Quirky 1950’s – Cocktail Dresses at the Ready

Unlike the 1920’s style wedding, the 1950’s was a time with no less class but certainly more colour and shorter dresses. Instead of full length gowns you have gorgeous little cocktail dresses with hundreds of different patterns to choose from. This is also the time where rockabilly was popular, so polka dots with bright red lips were an absolute must. You can achieve this look with a vintage venue full of antiquities from the time.

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Organic – Mother Nature of the Bride

More than just getting back to nature, organic weddings are a thing of beauty and a top trend in 2014. Recycling old clothes and furniture mixed with homemade outfits and furnishings made from natural materials. You don’t have to be a hippy to appreciate Mother Nature at her finest and you can create an amazing look for under half the price of the average wedding. To find out more about this style of wedding and the other above just visit Hitched.

Thank you to Lianne Crosby from the Hitched blog team for writing this article. If you would like to guest post on our blog, email your proposal to enquiries@ohsoperfect.co.uk to be considered – we’d love to hear from you! 

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Wedding Themes 2014 – Image Sources

Great Gatsby

Table Decs – The Wedding Scoop

Cake – http://weddingsandeventsrepublic.wordpress.com/2013/09/08/inspiration-board-great-gatsby-chic/#jp-carousel-489

Wedding Dress – http://ivyellenweddinginvitations.co.uk/blog/great-gatsby-wedding-inspiration

Shoes – http://www.elleuk.com/style/occasions/great-gatsby-1920s-inspired-wedding-style#image=6

Flowers – http://mnbride.com/decor-rentals/jazz-age-great-gatsby-inspired-wedding-decor

Chair – http://www.polkadotbride.com/2013/06/planning-a-dream-wedding-the-detail-is-in-the-deco/

Geometric

Invites  Flowers – http://www.100layercake.com/blog/2013/08/26/geometric-wedding-ideas/

Cake – http://ruffledblog.com/ruffled_galleries/notwedding-san-diego-by-lauren-alisse/notwedding-san-diego-lauren-alisse-reception_80/

Backdrop – http://tiedbowblog.wordpress.com/2012/06/01/shapely-wedding/

Table – http://www.knotandpop.com/portfolio/geometric-goodies/

Bride & Groom – http://bestfriendsforfrosting.com/2013/10/mod-geometric-wedding/

Woodland theme

Flowers – http://www.weddingchicks.com/gallery/woodland-wedding-decorations/?nggpage=2&pid=45500

Bride – http://www.laurelweddings.com/romantic-wedding-flowers-styled-bridal-shoot/

Quirky 1950s

Bride and groom – http://greenweddingshoes.com/austin-handmade-wedding-natalie-bryce/

Bridesmaids – http://www.rockmywedding.co.uk/bringing-the-outdoors-in-gallery/#rmw-0/21/camp-and-furnace-wedding043.jpg

Short dress – http://www.stylemepretty.com/lookbook/dolly-couture/wedding-dresses-2010/beverlywood/?wedding

Flowers – http://bridalmusings.com/2012/07/quirky-colourful-retro-wedding-inspiration/

Tree with photos – http://ruffledblog.com/stone-oak-ranch-wedding/

Table decs – http://www.pinterest.com/pin/346988346259883748/

Bride – http://www.lovemydress.net/blog/2011/06/claire-pettibone-enchanting-and-ethereal-woodland-shoot.html

Woodland mask – https://www.etsy.com/listing/60281436/bear-leather-mask-child-size-made-to

Cake – http://www.bridesofadelaide.com.au/index.php?blog_archive=6_p

Shoes http://offbeatbride.com/2013/05/polka-dotted-wedding-shoes

Basket – http://www.notonthehighstreet.com/rosiejos/product/polka-dot-retro-flower-print-bunting

Organic wedding

Cake – http://sandapagaimo.blogspot.ca/2012/07/joana-manuel-wedding-cake.html

Bouquet – http://ruffledblog.com/industrial-organic-wedding-inspiration/

Organic bath bomb favours – https://www.etsy.com/listing/122992895/seed-bombs-24-mix-of-flowers-eco

Recycled dress – http://www.pinterest.com/pin/557039047632031566/

Table décor – http://www.pinterest.com/pin/397513104581838936/

A Valentine from Becky Lord

Diary of a Wedding Planner

Ahh… Becky Lord. What a lovely lady! I first discovered this graphic designer and stationery whiz last year, when Becky sent me a gorgeous box of goodies in the post.

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The box consisted of a whole host of designs, bespoke invites and off the peg stationery for me to sit and peruse at my own leisure. The fact that the box also came with a cup of tea and box of scrummy biscuits made the experience all the more pleasurable!

A few months later, I found myself booking Becky to design some gorgeous bicycle stationery for one of my couples, and what a grand job she did do!

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So, you can imagine my delight last week when something new arrived in the post from this designer…

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Doesn’t it all look so lovely laid out on my desk? Becky Lord had sent me some glorious valentine treats – and of course the obligatory sugary snack to accompany my browsing!

In the package I discovered note-lets, postcards cards, cute confetti, patterned package tape, luggage labels and a lovely little print too; all themed to Valentines Day, love, and spoiling oneself.

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I may have squeeled a little as I sorted through and decided which pieces to display and which to send on to friends.

I particularly love the ‘Love, is the new black’ print Becky had popped in – I think I may have to frame this and pop it on my desk!

All of these items and many more splendid things can be found on Becky’s website. So I suggest you go and take a peep!

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