Wedding Speech Guru :: Best Man Boot Camp

A nationwide survey* commissioned by Wedding Speech Guru, reveals that Britain could be heading towards a shortage of best men. Almost half of the UK male population – 43% – would consider turning down the opportunity to be best man because they are so nervous about the prospect of making a speech.

And their nerves would seem to be well-founded. Almost three quarters (74%) of the 2,000 people questioned said that speeches can make or break the wedding. And 79% say that they feel sorry for the best man because of the pressure the speech brings…
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Nearly six out of ten (56%) said that they have heard embarrassing and inappropriate wedding speeches, over a third (35%) have been to weddings ruined by drunken speeches and a third of 18-34 year olds are ashamed of their wedding speech.
With so many best men getting it wrong, Wedding Speech Guru is organising Best Men Boot Camp – a workshop to help men talk about a bridegroom with truth and humour, rather than embarrass him with cheap jokes.
“What many best men don’t realise is that rather than embarrassing the groom, the main purpose of their speech is to commend their friend to the guests,” said Robin Bayley, author and founder of Wedding Speech Guru. Once wedding guests see that a speech is coming from a place of love and respect, they are much more likely to respond with laughter.
At the boot camp, which is being held in central London on July 16th, the best men will learn how to gather their material, hone it into stories that illustrate the groom’s character, and practise delivery in front of the other best men.
But if best men aren’t willing to step up to the plate, it seems that women are. One in five – 20% – of UK weddings have best women rather than best men. Women are judged to make better, less cringe-worthy speeches, less likely to get drunk and also to steer clear of rude jokes about the bride.
62% of Londoners think that it should be normal for women to make wedding speeches, and 57% said that women are more natural because men try too hard to be funny. Nationally 53% of 24-34 year olds believe that women’s wedding speeches are better than men’s.
*Nationwide survey by Populus, March 2016. 2,000 respondents, aged 18+

Wedding Speech Guru was founded by author, life coach and serial best man, Robin Bayley.

Wedding Speech Guru’s mission is to ensure that speeches honour the bride and groom and come from a place of affection and emotional truth. Alongside group workshops, such as Best Man Boot Camp Wedding Speech Guru provides tailor made, one-to-one speech coaching for anyone making a wedding speech. Robin helped to set up Wedding TV in 2008 and is a registered minister, licensed to conduct weddings in California. He has just been asked to be best man for the sixth time.

For more information contact Robin
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Top Tips: Advice for the boys on Stag Web

Our expert opinion bad been expressed once again, this week on Stag Web’s latest blog feature: ‘How To Get Married & Live To Tell The Tale.’

The full article, full of tongue in cheek tips and somewhat amusing advice, is available to view on… But here’s a little snippet of our input on what to do when you’re the boy planning a big day.


Go Hen Feature: A Day in the Life of a Wedding Planner

  Oh So Perfect wedding planner Samantha gave an insight this week into what it takes to coordinate a wedding for online hen party experts Go Hen. Follow the link to read the article ‘A Day in the Life of a Wedding Planner’ on and see Samantha’s input as a feature writer for this popular website…

 Go Hen Feature: A Day in the Life of a Wedding Planner 

Read the rest of the article online now! 


The UK’s Best Wedding Planners chosen by

We’re delighted to be listed amongst the UK’s top wedding planners by expert Hen Party People –! 

This week the blog have listed who they considered to be the best wedding planners in the UK in 2015 , and Oh So Perfect is counted amongst them…. oh of course! 

You can view the full article by following this link. 

Helpful Passport Advice for Newlyweds and Honeymoon Travellers


The lovely people at The Passports Office have sent us this helpful article containing all the advice you need for changing your name on your passport after getting married. Sarah Smith joins us on Oh So Perfect today to tell you eveything you need to know about going on honeymoon immediately after your wedding, and how to make sure your travel documents are valid for travel…   

Getting married is for most people the most the memorable and amazing day of their lives. So much time, effort and love goes into making every tiny detail Oh So Perfect. 

There are so many things to think about after you get married that lots of people tend to forget, not hard when there’s so many thoughts flying around such as where to go on honeymoon, your new marital home, who’s feeding the cat while we’re away, not to mention the tough stuff like changing your name! An endless amount of people need to be told whether you’re taking your loved one’s surname, you’re going doubled barrelled or you’re making up a new one all together and have decided you are now Mr and Mrs Loveheart-forever… (That’s what I’ve decided on, anyway!)


Aside from the usual Bank, Memberships and Utility companies there’s often one thing many married women overlook both before and after their wedding ceremony and that’s your Passport. Your Passport can be the most important document you hold as not only it is required to travel but it’s increasingly one of the only other forms of identification alongside a driving licence that most companies will accept to prove your identity. 


There are a few important things that most people do not know about passports before and after a wedding/name change that can make your life a lot easier. So if like millions of people around the world, you want to start your perfect married life together by jetting off somewhere romantic on honeymoon, we’ve compiled all this information in an easy to read format to help you avoid any headaches when planning your honeymoon.


Passport travel in your maiden name


It is often overlooked by the bride at the time, everyone assumes that you must change your passport even before you’ve booked your honeymoon into your new married name, but there is one exception to this rule. If this is your first marriage and you’re going to be changing your name from “Maiden” to “Married” name, you are able to still travel using your maiden name even after marriage! How is this possible you may ask? Well here’s the interesting bit, there is actually no legal requirement for a woman to change her name after marriage, its even possible that after becoming a Mrs you can continue to use either your married of maiden name in any future endeavours (this may prove difficult in certain circumstances but in terms of honeymoon travel it can make your life easier, see below).


You are legally able to still use your maiden name until your passport expires if you so wish, however if you decide to do this most travel agents/airlines will require that your name on the booking/tickets matches your maiden name shown on your Passport. As long as you abide by this rule you will not need to change your name on your Passport until after your honeymoon or when the Passport is due for renewal.


Changing name on your passport


When you change your name on your UK passport all depends on whether you want to do it before or after your ceremony. Either way really is down to you, if you’re so excited to use your new married name and just cant wait here’s how to go about it.


Before the ceremony


Many people are unaware that you can actually change your name on your passport up to 3 months before your ceremony. The passport office can post-date your passport with your change of name on it. There are a few things to remember though…your old passport will be cancelled and you will be unable to use your new passport until the date of your ceremony. 


You only need to add in one extra form with your application, this is called a PD2 Form:  and is also available at the Post Office or for more about marriage online see:


This form must be signed by the religious minister or registrar performing the ceremony. Then you can just send it in with your normal application.


*Don’t get caught out though, some countries will not give visas for post-dated passports but if you know where you are spending your first romantic getaway then you can check here if that country will 

 After the ceremony

Now if you decide to change your name after your ceremony and after your honeymoon that’s simple just continue to use your existing UK passport. And once you’re back and ready to get stuck into married life just send off your marriage or civil partnership certificate to the passport office with your application to renew your passport. Just bear in mind that standard applications via post do take 3-5 weeks, if you need this done urgently there are companies that can assist (see below).


Now we want your honeymoon to be as amazing and stress free as possible, so please remember as mentioned above the name on your passport, which would most likely be your Maiden Name in this case; will need to match the name on your holiday documentation/tickets of your honeymoon booking, this is why its important to plan your Passport name change in advance, as it can effect your plans in more ways than one.



Who can help?


If you are looking for more information and there are plenty of options, and all are designed to try and make the hassle of your passport application as smooth as possible.


The Post office can often help when applying for passports but tend to be less helpful when you require further help or special requirements such as post dated name changes. For all your facts and ins and outs there’s with all the information you’ll need including the post-date name change form.

If you’re like me and would like someone to take all the stress and hassle out of the situation then you can use an independent Passport advice service such as, they offer advice and checking services as well as services for urgent passports.


So pack your flip flops, your sun screen and your passport and go enjoy your amazing once in a lifetime honeymoon with your one true love.


Thank you to Sarah Smith at the Passports Office for sending us this useful information. If you would like to know more about passport advice post-marriage visit the website. All images in this article belong to Oh So Perfect. 

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Oh So Perfect’s Top Tips to beat wedding stress on

Catch our wedding planner and all round wedding expert Samantha featured this week on the Go Hen wedding blog offering her top tips and advice on how to beat wedding planning stress.

Follow this link for the full article on 

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Roberson Wine – Food and Wine pairings

The very kind people at Roberson Wines have offered our readers this infographic to share on our blog this afternoon regarding suggested food and wine parings for consideration when choosing your menu and drink choices at your wedding breakfast. I hope you find them useful!

Roberson Wines food and wine pairing with Oh So PerfectMore information can be found at

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‘Top Tips for Wedding Speech Nerves’ by the Wedding Speech Guru

The thoughts of having to write and deliver a speech on the wedding day can certainly leave one feeling a touch apprehensive… if not absolutely terrified! Robin Bayley, the man behind Wedding Speech Guru, shares his top tips with Oh So Perfect on how to conqueror those wedding speech nerves.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard's wedding.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard’s wedding.



  1. Know what nerves are

The first thing to realise is that nerves are inevitable and, this is the important point, they are not a bad thing. Ask any performer – actor, comedian, singer, politician or sports star – and they will tell you that they are always nervous before a big occasion, and that they use nerves to raise their game.


  1. Know your speech

While nerves are inevitable, you do need to be able to control them. What do you need to control nerves? The answer is very simple: confidence. And how do you become more confident? The answer is again very simple: know your speech. The definition of confidence is to have faith in something; if you know your material and how you want to deliver it, you’ll have confidence in yourself.


For any wedding speech, or any speech, there are three P’s to remember: Plan, Prepare and Practise. Even if you are a bride or groom wanting to just say a few words, if you have planned, prepared and practised those words in advance, your ability to convey what you want to say will increase exponentially.


  1. Know your audience

If it’s your wedding you will know who the wedding guests are. If not, ask. Try and include stories from both sides of the aisle so you connect with everyone in the room. The more you connect, the better they will react to you, and the more relaxed you will feel. Another way to connect with the audience is to talk with as many people as possible in the reception beforehand. It’s good to look up at friendly faces when you stand to make your speech, and if they’ve met you they’ll get behind you. You may also get some gems of last-minute material.


  1. Know the room

Make sure you see the room where the speeches will take place. See how your voice sounds in the room. If you’re using a microphone, test it. Double and triple check that any other technology you need is working. Appoint someone you trust to make sure it comes on at the right moment. Practise with them.


  1. Know your limits

It is tempting to try and banish nerves with alcohol but I would strongly advise against it. Having any more than a couple of drinks will seriously impair your ability to deliver the speech. As the comedian Bob Monkhouse used to say: “Never accept a drink before your speech. And never refuse one after it!”



This article was written for Oh So Perfect by Robin Bayley of Wedding Speech Guru. Wedding Speech Guru is a personalised coaching service for anyone making a wedding speech. If you need help with the writing, editing or delivery of your speech, contact Robin on +44 7985 919856,, via or on Twitter @weddspeechguru 

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Oh So Perfect offer expert advice in the June/July ‘Your Berks, Bucks, Oxon Wedding’ Magazine

Have you picked up your June/July copy of Your Berks, Bucks & Oxon Wedding magazine just yet? Well if not then you’d better hop to it oh so lovelies as we’re featured in this latest edition answering your questions and offering our wedding planner’s expert advice on everything you need to know about wedding venues and outdoor ceremonies.

Pick up your copy and flick through to page 92 for the full feature which not only includes our expert advice but also our photos of Sam and Rick’s outdoor ‘celebration of marriage’ ceremony and Emma and Andy’s now rather famous purple pompoms too! And of course Your County Wedding mag is always packed full of all sorts of other wonderful features including tips, gossip, fashion and beauty, real-life weddings and everything else you could possibly need to get your monthly bridal fix….


If you’d like more advice about planning an outdoor wedding – or any wedding for that matter – or require some coordination and assistance on your wedding day, take a look at our website for our full list of wedding packages and services to suit you.

Would you like to feature Oh So Perfect in your wedding magazine or blog? Contact our wedding planner Samantha direct to discuss editorial opportunities today:


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2014 Wedding Trends: Fashionable Themes

We’re delighted this week to be bringing you this inspiring little blog post featuring 2014’s hottest wedding themes currently trending this year, as written by Lianne Crosby from the wedding blog team…. enjoy! 

This year has seen a very big change in wedding trends, couples are pushing the barriers of a traditional wedding and now you can have your wedding exactly how you want it. Fashion is a huge factor when it comes to wedding trends, because whatever is fashionable at the time of planning may not be so fashionable when the big day actually hits. Doing your research and keeping an eye on what’s hot can ensure that your wedding will not only be ball but will also fit in with what’s current at the time. So what’s hot right now?

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1920’s Style – The Great Gatsby

This is become a great trend for budding brides all around the world. With the release of The Great Gatsby soaring sky high at box office, the 1920’s lifestyle has become far more attractive to us. There is a touch of class that comes with this style of wedding, having everyone dressed to the nines and creating a dreamlike reception that everyone will enjoy. Going back in time is never a bad thing, this is the era that saw the first ever Academy Awards and the invention of bubble gum.

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Geometric – Throwing Some Shapes

Geometry was never a strong point for many of us in school, but now we’re all a little older the idea of a geometric wedding has become somewhat intriguing. We’re used to weddings being quite soft and gentle but you can still create this illusion with geometric shapes. Geometric shapes are made with lines and are blocky, this means no curves and nothing round. So you could have a very square wedding cake, but it doesn’t look odd at all, it’s actually very stylish these days.

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Woodland – The Great Outdoors

Even though Britain has been dubbed one of the wettest countries in the world, we do occasionally get the odd bit of sunshine. With the sunshine comes beautiful and stunning outdoor weddings in the sun. Woodland weddings work perfectly in the summer as you get the warmth of the sun but then the shade of the trees to stop you from getting burnt or heat exhaustion. It also gives you way more space to play with and also makes for some amazing photographs.

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Quirky 1950’s – Cocktail Dresses at the Ready

Unlike the 1920’s style wedding, the 1950’s was a time with no less class but certainly more colour and shorter dresses. Instead of full length gowns you have gorgeous little cocktail dresses with hundreds of different patterns to choose from. This is also the time where rockabilly was popular, so polka dots with bright red lips were an absolute must. You can achieve this look with a vintage venue full of antiquities from the time.

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Organic – Mother Nature of the Bride

More than just getting back to nature, organic weddings are a thing of beauty and a top trend in 2014. Recycling old clothes and furniture mixed with homemade outfits and furnishings made from natural materials. You don’t have to be a hippy to appreciate Mother Nature at her finest and you can create an amazing look for under half the price of the average wedding. To find out more about this style of wedding and the other above just visit Hitched.

Thank you to Lianne Crosby from the Hitched blog team for writing this article. If you would like to guest post on our blog, email your proposal to to be considered – we’d love to hear from you! 

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