Wedding Speech Guru :: Best Man Boot Camp

A nationwide survey* commissioned by Wedding Speech Guru, reveals that Britain could be heading towards a shortage of best men. Almost half of the UK male population – 43% – would consider turning down the opportunity to be best man because they are so nervous about the prospect of making a speech.

And their nerves would seem to be well-founded. Almost three quarters (74%) of the 2,000 people questioned said that speeches can make or break the wedding. And 79% say that they feel sorry for the best man because of the pressure the speech brings…
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Nearly six out of ten (56%) said that they have heard embarrassing and inappropriate wedding speeches, over a third (35%) have been to weddings ruined by drunken speeches and a third of 18-34 year olds are ashamed of their wedding speech.
With so many best men getting it wrong, Wedding Speech Guru is organising Best Men Boot Camp – a workshop to help men talk about a bridegroom with truth and humour, rather than embarrass him with cheap jokes.
“What many best men don’t realise is that rather than embarrassing the groom, the main purpose of their speech is to commend their friend to the guests,” said Robin Bayley, author and founder of Wedding Speech Guru. Once wedding guests see that a speech is coming from a place of love and respect, they are much more likely to respond with laughter.
At the boot camp, which is being held in central London on July 16th, the best men will learn how to gather their material, hone it into stories that illustrate the groom’s character, and practise delivery in front of the other best men.
But if best men aren’t willing to step up to the plate, it seems that women are. One in five – 20% – of UK weddings have best women rather than best men. Women are judged to make better, less cringe-worthy speeches, less likely to get drunk and also to steer clear of rude jokes about the bride.
62% of Londoners think that it should be normal for women to make wedding speeches, and 57% said that women are more natural because men try too hard to be funny. Nationally 53% of 24-34 year olds believe that women’s wedding speeches are better than men’s.
*Nationwide survey by Populus, March 2016. 2,000 respondents, aged 18+

Wedding Speech Guru was founded by author, life coach and serial best man, Robin Bayley.

Wedding Speech Guru’s mission is to ensure that speeches honour the bride and groom and come from a place of affection and emotional truth. Alongside group workshops, such as Best Man Boot Camp Wedding Speech Guru provides tailor made, one-to-one speech coaching for anyone making a wedding speech. Robin helped to set up Wedding TV in 2008 and is a registered minister, licensed to conduct weddings in California. He has just been asked to be best man for the sixth time.

For more information contact Robin
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robin@weddingspeechguru.co.uk
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Post written by Robin Bayley and publised on www.ohsoperfect.co.uk. 

 

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Top Tips: Advice for the boys on Stag Web

Our expert opinion bad been expressed once again, this week on Stag Web’s latest blog feature: ‘How To Get Married & Live To Tell The Tale.’

The full article, full of tongue in cheek tips and somewhat amusing advice, is available to view on www.stagweb.co.uk… But here’s a little snippet of our input on what to do when you’re the boy planning a big day.

  

Go Hen Feature: A Day in the Life of a Wedding Planner

  Oh So Perfect wedding planner Samantha gave an insight this week into what it takes to coordinate a wedding for online hen party experts Go Hen. Follow the link to read the article ‘A Day in the Life of a Wedding Planner’ on http://www.gohen.com and see Samantha’s input as a feature writer for this popular website…

 Go Hen Feature: A Day in the Life of a Wedding Planner 

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Oh So Perfect’s Top Tips to beat wedding stress on GoHen.com

Catch our wedding planner and all round wedding expert Samantha featured this week on the Go Hen wedding blog offering her top tips and advice on how to beat wedding planning stress.

Follow this link for the full article on www.gohen.com 

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‘Top Tips for Wedding Speech Nerves’ by the Wedding Speech Guru

The thoughts of having to write and deliver a speech on the wedding day can certainly leave one feeling a touch apprehensive… if not absolutely terrified! Robin Bayley, the man behind Wedding Speech Guru, shares his top tips with Oh So Perfect on how to conqueror those wedding speech nerves.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard's wedding.

The Father of the Bride says a few words at Kate and Richard’s wedding.

 

 

  1. Know what nerves are

The first thing to realise is that nerves are inevitable and, this is the important point, they are not a bad thing. Ask any performer – actor, comedian, singer, politician or sports star – and they will tell you that they are always nervous before a big occasion, and that they use nerves to raise their game.

 

  1. Know your speech

While nerves are inevitable, you do need to be able to control them. What do you need to control nerves? The answer is very simple: confidence. And how do you become more confident? The answer is again very simple: know your speech. The definition of confidence is to have faith in something; if you know your material and how you want to deliver it, you’ll have confidence in yourself.

 

For any wedding speech, or any speech, there are three P’s to remember: Plan, Prepare and Practise. Even if you are a bride or groom wanting to just say a few words, if you have planned, prepared and practised those words in advance, your ability to convey what you want to say will increase exponentially.

 

  1. Know your audience

If it’s your wedding you will know who the wedding guests are. If not, ask. Try and include stories from both sides of the aisle so you connect with everyone in the room. The more you connect, the better they will react to you, and the more relaxed you will feel. Another way to connect with the audience is to talk with as many people as possible in the reception beforehand. It’s good to look up at friendly faces when you stand to make your speech, and if they’ve met you they’ll get behind you. You may also get some gems of last-minute material.

 

  1. Know the room

Make sure you see the room where the speeches will take place. See how your voice sounds in the room. If you’re using a microphone, test it. Double and triple check that any other technology you need is working. Appoint someone you trust to make sure it comes on at the right moment. Practise with them.

 

  1. Know your limits

It is tempting to try and banish nerves with alcohol but I would strongly advise against it. Having any more than a couple of drinks will seriously impair your ability to deliver the speech. As the comedian Bob Monkhouse used to say: “Never accept a drink before your speech. And never refuse one after it!”

 

 

This article was written for Oh So Perfect by Robin Bayley of Wedding Speech Guru. Wedding Speech Guru is a personalised coaching service for anyone making a wedding speech. If you need help with the writing, editing or delivery of your speech, contact Robin on +44 7985 919856, robin@weddingspeechguru.co.uk, via weddingspeechguru.co.uk or on Twitter @weddspeechguru 

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Bridesmaid Dress Shopping: Top Tips!

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I have planned plenty of weddings, I’ve coordinated dozens of wedding days, I’ve been a bride’s best friend on several occasions, but I have never been a Maid of Honour!

This year that changes as mixed in amongst the summer season of Oh So Perfect weddings, is the wedding of my best friend, and as such I have been bestowed with the ultimate wedding-planning privilege – I am her Maid of Honour. Excited, much?

As a wedding planner, I get involved in lots of lovely personal moments with my bride and groom, helping them to identify themselves as a couple and sharing their ideas for their perfect day, but I like to take a little step back when it comes to ‘being with the girls.’ One of the loveliest things about being a bride is choosing your bridesmaids, asking the ladies closest to you to support you in the biggest day of your life, and one of the fun parts of being a bridesmaid is going bridesmaid dress shopping!

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I recently had the pleasure of joining my best friend and two of her other bridesmaids for a very fun afternoon of bridesmaid dress shopping. We had a lovely day together all of us, and it only took 3 rounds of trying things on before we found the dress and what a gorgeous dress it was! It gathered a resounding ooooh! from all of us as we each slipped into it, and a a big thumbs up all round as we all realised it was perfect!

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We were very lucky to find something so perfect, so quick, but it’s not always as easy… shopping with 5 – 7 – 10! other girls can be a lot harder than shopping with just 3, so with this in mind, here are a few little tips for brides and bridesmaids to consider when choosing the perfect dress…

1. Think about your colour scheme and theme.
OK, sound obvious, but it’s important to remember that your bridesmaids will play a big role in carrying on your chosen colour scheme and theme of the day! It is important to have a clear idea of the sort of colour you are going for – take some swatches or an example of your stationary to help you find the right shade, and if it’s a particular style you’re going for (50s/Gatsby/minimal etc.) then keep the theme in mind when choosing the dress. Cut out some images from magazines, or build up a board on Pinterest first to share with your girls so they all have a clear idea of what it is you’re looking ahead of the shopping trip.

2. Do your research.
Got a very specific style/colour in mind? Remember that the evening wear/bridesmaid dress shops on the highstreet will all be working to current fashion trends, so you may find it difficult to get the exact colour or fashion style you’re after if it’s not akin to what’s currently going on in the fashion catwalk too. Look online first, check which stores are currently stocking what dresses and what dress specialists are in the area, and draw up a plan of where you want to visit before you hit the shops.

3. All girls are different!
What do you love most about your bridesmaids – the fact that they’re your nearest and dearest friends, right? And with that, you must remember that each of them is an individual, they’re all different and that’s why you love them! But I’m not just talking about personality, it’s also important to remember that each girl looks different too. We all have different shapes and sizes, different hair and skin tones, and it can be very difficult sometimes to find one dress which ultimately suits all styles! We were very lucky when buying our dress – a long empire line with floaty fabric, and a bold dark colour tends to hit if off with all different body shapes and tones too, but bear in mind if your girls are really different, squeezing them all into an unusual shape, fit or colour dress may prove tricky!

4. Talk to your ladies.
It’s important to speak to your girls before you go shopping.Ultimately the final decision is yours, yes, but following on from my last point here, each girl knows her own style and has a pretty good understanding of what will or won’t look good on her – she’s been buying clothes for herself longer than you have don’t forget! Talk to your ladies about what styles they think suit them – and more importantly what styles they would feel most comfortable wearing, because you want your bridesmaids to look and feel good on the day too so that they can relax and enjoy themselves rather than worrying that they’re not comfortable in the outfit you choose. You never know, they may inspire you to think of something different you hadn’t considered!

5. Think about your own dress.
What does your dress look like? Remember to consider your own style, and perhaps even take a photo from your own fitting with you so you can decide whether the bridesmaid dresses you choose ultimately compliment the tones, fabric and styles of your own dress too.

6. Don’t be afraid to try something on.
My best friend was adamant that she wanted us in knee length dresses. Yet, take another look at the picture at the top of this post…. floor length! When we found these dresses, she ummed and ahhed as it was short she had in mind, but I suggested we simply try them on anyway – you never know – and fancy that, they were just the ticket and she loved them!

7. Be clear on your budget.
Before you hit the shops, make sure you’re clear about how much you want to spend and who is spending what. If you are buying the dresses for your girls, make sure they know the price tag limit and what is included – do you want to include the shoes and accessories in this budget or will the girls buy these themselves? Be clear. Talk to your girls, find out how much, if anything they’d be willing to contribute if the budget needed to be stretched, or, if you’re asking them to buy the dress themselves then be sure how much they are all comfortable to be spending (with all accessories considered too – do not forget those extra penny pinchers!) and remember to respect their set figure when you’re looking too.

8. One for the bridesmaids…
One final point, and this one goes to the girls themselves. Ladies, we all have our tastes, and as a bridal party it’s our job offer help and advice to a stressed out bride, but ultimately, and the very end of the day, the decision is hers. It’s your best mate’s big day, so let’s keep it that way. Sure, speak up if you’re really unhappy or uncomfortable, but for goodness sake do not cause a full blown drama because you’ll be off that bridal party list quicker than you can say “top table.”

From ’27 Dresses’

Remember that scene from 27 Dresses where Ms Heigl pulls out all her bridesmaid gowns-gone-by? Yeah, there’s some real stinkers there, but you know what, she wore them, because that’s what a good bridesmaid does.

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