Lovely Things From Lovely Friends

Diary of a Wedding Planner

As a wedding planner, I’m very lucky to be able to meet and work alongside some very lovely people here in wedding-land. When you work from home, as I do, it can sometimes become rather lonely day to day, compared to working in a busy office with lots of colleagues who don’t mind taking the odd five minutes out of their day for a quick chat while making a cuppa. So when, like me,  you’re lucky enough to meet lovely people in the industry through the weddings you end up working on together, who quite often work from home or on their own as well, it’s quite common to find that friendships quickly form.

This week I received a lovely little late birthday present from one said friend out there in the world of Welsh weddings – the rather marvellous Kelly White of White Crafts, and what a fab gift it is too! Because, when you get to know other suppliers/colleagues/ friends in the wedding industry, you become very appreciative of what those other suppliers/ colleagues/ friends actually do in the wedding industry too! Working together means you come to understand the different trials and tribulations that planning a wedding can bring with it, and how important each person is in making that big day so special. You also come to realise the physical differences in your job… which is probably why Kelly sent me this fabulous thing:

Now, technically this marvellous foam pad is meant for when your down on your knees doing a spot of gardening. However, I often find myself down on my knees at weddings: tidying up table linen, placing petals down the edges of aisles, helping brides with wedding dresses, polishing shoes, and getting on with other general coordination tasks, and my knees sometimes get a little bit sore! So I shall be digging out my tippex and pens and altering this very funny yet very practical little gift to read ‘Keep Calm and Carry On Wedding!’ in preparation for when I’m next down on my knees at a wedding.

You can read Kelly’s guest post on our blog from earlier this year, offering Wedding Stationery Tips and Advice by clicking this link.

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Wedding Stationery Tips and Advice from White Crafts

As wedding planners, Oh So Perfect work hard to bring our clients the best advice possible to help make planning a wedding an enjoyable, stress-free experience for all our couples. 

We invited Wales-based wedding stationery designer, Kelly White of White Crafts to appear as a guest writer on the Oh So Perfect blog, to offer our readers an insight into what to think about when choosing your wedding stationery and sending your invites. Here Kelly gives her tips and advice to help you on your way…

There are a number of aspects to take in to consideration when ordering your wedding invitations, here are a few helpful tips to help you on your way to STRESS FREE wedding stationery delights!

Number of Invitations

Before you even begin to look at designs, colours, lay out of invitations make sure you know how many you need! Remember 100 guests will mean approximately 50 invitations, as many will be couples or families who only require 1 invite. This is only a rough guide and it’s well worth the time sitting down and going through the list properly with your partner to get a precise number.

Style of Wedding

Is your wedding a formal affair, sticking to all the traditions? Are you taking a modern twist on some of the old favourites? Are you heading for an informal relaxed celebration? Whatever you decide, your invitations/save the dates are the very first encounter your guests have with your wedding. They set the scene for what your guests can expect on the day itself, and have the power of determine dress choices (especially colour) and whether or not your guests will make the effort to attend.

Who’s inviting Who?

Sit down and talk openly about whom will be hosting (inviting people) to the wedding. Traditionally the Brides parents invite guests to the marriage of their daughter, but with more and more Brides and Grooms paying for their own weddings or multiple parties contributing then who’s name goes on the invitation can become a taboo subject, if not approached head on! There are many different wording options that can include everyone, so if you find yourself lost just ask your wedding stationer for help.

Names

You have to think not only about the Bride and Groom’s names here. For example, do you want to include middle names or even surnames? Whose name is first? I could go on… but you’d probably stop reading. You also need to consider how you’re going to display your guests’ names. Some choose not to include names on their invitations. In my experience I personally would always recommend stating exactly who is invited and more importantly who isn’t!! You don’t want to be in a situation on the day where you assumed Auntie Sue & Uncle Pete are coming to the wedding but their 24 year old son with his new girl aren’t, only for them all to turn up on the day with nowhere to sit, and nothing to eat. Awkward! Better to make it clear from the very beginning whom is and isn’t invited.

RSVP

It’s always a good idea to include an RSVP to ensure you get your responses in the time frame you want, including all the information you need. Always check with your venue when they need your final confirmed numbers, and how many vegetarians, vegans, gluten free, allergies etc. meals you require. This way you can make sure you ask your guests for their responses in a reasonable time, plus a little extra for you chase any one slacking.

Gifts

I have this question A LOT, ‘we’ve lived together for years, and we have everything we need, so is it cheeky to just ask for money?’ This is completely personal to you. In my experience, approximately 1 in 50 weddings have a traditional gift list, all the others ask for money contributions towards home improvements, or the honeymoon. There are polite ways of doing this, but remember your guests will bring you something. They’ll want to give you something. If you don’t tell them what you want, you face the awkwardness of having three kettles, towels that don’t match your bathroom, and a toaster you don’t need. Whether you choose money, a gift list, charitable donations in lieu of gifts, or strictly no gifts at all, you have to give your guests this information.

Your day!

Above all, remember it’s YOUR WEDDING. There are no rights or wrongs, I can tell you the traditions but in the end it is up to you and your partner what you want to include and don’t want to include. Happy Planning!

Kelly x

For more information about White Crafts Hand-made Wedding Stationery visit the webiste www.whitecrafts.com

Need help planning your wedding day? Visit www.ohsoperfect.co.uk for our full list of wedding planning and coordination services and packages.

We’re giving away a Fortnum and Mason Champagne and Chocolates hamper to all couples booking selected services with us before 31st March 2012! To view this fabulous offer click here

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